Ghostworld
At my high school, it felt more to me
Like a jail cell, a penitentiary
My time spent there, it only made me see
That I don’t ever wanna be like you
I don’t wanna do the things you do
I’m never gonna hear the words you say
and I don’t ever wanna, I don’t ever wanna be
You…don’t wanna be just like you
(Good Charlotte-The Anthem)
Lately I’ve been feeling all “high-school-y”.
I blame this on some of the blogs I’m reading and tv I’m watching, and obviously the being in September, school month for antonomasia.
Mtv Italy has just discovered that geek is chic, and is airing a lot of new nerd-friendly stuff. The only one I’m finding lovely and therefore watching every week is the kind-of-fake-reality My life as Liz. Ah ah, she’s pretty cool. And the guy is reeeally cute. The kind of crush I would have had in high school myself.
Truth is, I haven’t been in any kind of organized educational institution for over an year now! I graduated from high school in Summer 2009 and haven’t gone back, yet.
Even though I quite like studying, I needed a break from it. One year wasn’t enough, so I’m entering the second. Because, yes, in my experience, high school sucks. Yup. It’s not a case that a couple of weeks ago I quoted Daria’s graduation speech. My high school experience was hell. I suffered, a lot, and it hurt all through it, every single year, in different ways. Like so many other people, I never had the the brilliant high school experience. Mine was gloomy, boring, heart breaking, embarassing, all in all just LAME!
Yes, my high school life was lame, that’s it! I was a real loser, the few friends I made were a disaster, I never really learnt anything in 4 years and didn’t leave any trace behind me.
So, don’t be fooled by all these stories of cool nerds, like the one I previously mentioned. They are fun and entertaining, but not realistic. Don’t feel guilty because you’re making nothing out of your school years, ok?! I mean, if you can have some full, satisfying years, all the best! I’m mad jealous ahah, but good for you J But remember that some people just cannot do it. For some people high school means hiding under a blanket, waiting for it to pass. If that’s your case, and everything you try fails (every club-team-association you try to join sucks, and so on), IT’S ALL RIGHT! It just means it’s not your time of life. Good times will come later. You’re building up good karma for college, or work, or a life of World wanderings.
Some might say I wasted my teenage years. I used to think it myself for a long time. But guess what? I DON’T GIVE A DAMN!
All I care about is that now I’m happier and stronger. I’m proud of myself for not being that “lame” teenager anymore. I realize I’ve never been lame or a loser, I was just in the wrong environment and as soon as I got out of it I could shine again!
So, UNLUCKY HIGH SCHOOLERS: HOLD ON! Don’t feel guilty for hating high school and not being able to make the best out of it. Sometimes it’s just not your place. But it’s over soon enough and then you’re free. Really. I promise.
Just make sure during and especially afterwards, you do anything you can to find your own happiness. In the worst case you’ll get somewhere in the middle. And it will be good.
Now, if I can advise some high-school-friendly media consumption: Stylerookie, Tavi Gevinson is my high school queen of the moment. Kurt Cobain-ish hair, granny glasses, this smart (not anymore so)little girl has grown really interesting. I’m not that interested in fashion and designer collections, but really do chek out her outfits. Posts about diverse aesthetics and feminism. And her inspiration posts where she just pastes a series of images. As I said, she’s pretty smart. The whole blog smells like teen spirit.
And watch Daria! Lots of it! Watch Ghostworld and cry for it. Watch the Virgin Suicides, or read the book. Read Harry Potter (but you don’t have to watch the films, or do it after the books). Read Stargirl. Cry when you feel like crying, every time, but then push the gloom away until next time and smile and shine for a while even if you’re alone. And let yourself feel better. Do it!